“I am terrible with money and always have been”.
Chances are you yourself have spoken a similar statement, or have heard someone you know speak it.
Most of us grew up in a generation where it was believed you were born with a certain set of skills and strengths (intelligence included) and that there was little room to expand upon these abilities.
Decades of neuroscience have now proven this theory very wrong indicating that the human brain in fact has a high degree of plasticity and is capable of change on a neural level. Research by Dr. Carol Dweck has taken these findings and expanded on them by proving that not only can a person continue to grow in various strengths and abilities, but a person’s perception of their ability to grow and learn, plays a major role in their success on such endeavors. Human’s may be creatures of habit- but we don’t need to be, and the best news is that we are in the driver’s seat.
Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset
A fixed mindset holds the belief that a person’s strengths and talents are ‘hardwired’, asserting that essentially we either ‘have it’, or we don’t. A person operating out of this mindset is more likely to give up on challenging tasks and to fold under the pressure of a new challenge.
A growth mindset holds the opposite view, that abilities and talents can be developed and improved upon by hard work and dedication. A person thinking with a growth mindset will be more resilient through challenges faced as well as better at solving problems and task completion.
Why Growth Mindset Benefits Your Child
“I can’t do it!, I give up! (*insert stomping feet, intense pout or door slamming)”
Thinking of learning in terms of black and white (either I know how to do it or I don’t), children who naturally gravitate toward a fixed mindset often find mistakes and new challenges stir up frustration and overwhelm. A seemingly simple and enjoyable task such as sitting down for a new family board game can quickly become a source of discouragement. If you have a child like this you know it, and may have referred to them as “too perfectionistic” or possible “lazy”.
Whether we come into the world wired more towards a fixed mindset, or pick up these ideas in our environments, it is clear that working toward developing growth mindset philosophies in your household will set your child up for lifelong confidence, success and resilience.
A growth mindset leads to kids who are eager to learn, even when they face difficulties and obstacles. Growth mindset thinking leads a child to be driven toward mastery of a task, and invites new opportunities for learning. When a setback is experienced, the focus is on effort and problem solving strategies instead of worrying that they are incompetent.
Right about now you may be asking, “So how do I help incorporate growth mindset into my child’s family environment?” Don’t worry, we’ve got you covered.
Kidibank™ is a Parent’s Growth Mindset Partner
In contrast to the massive amount of research on growth mindset, there aren’t a ton of tools available to aid parents in fostering these traits at home. While you may not have noticed, Kidibank™ is a fabulous resource to encourage growth mindset in the home environment.
Encouraging effort over achievement
Dweck’s research has shown that giving feedback on unsuccessful tasks (or uncompleted goals) is paramount for a child’s growth mindset. Kidibank™ gets this conversation started for your family and allows for a parent-child dialogue on problem-solving and alleviate obstacles to success.
Welcoming challenge and hard work
For a growth mindset, challenges must be invited and welcomed. Kidibank™ gives families the ability to continually reflect on contributions to the household community and collaborate in setting goals and foster self-growth.
Striving toward mastery of a task
Growth mindset helps increase motivation for task mastery. With various incentives offered through Kidibank™ your child is focused and motivated towards their end goals.
Persevering through challenges
Kidibank™ makes it easy to change up goals/responsibilities for your child and inspires perseverance through a consistent framework of clear expectations. When a family changes their thoughts and attitudes towards learning and achievement great things will happen. Using Kidibank™ to support growth mindset in your family culture will lay the groundwork for future confidence, diligence and success.
Goals includes chores/house participation and personal objectives and the screen time
monitor allows to set good regular/healthy habits so the entire family participates and stay sane!
Find out more about Kidibank™, the positive parenting app at http://www.kidibank.com/
Angela Pruess, LMFT, is a Child and Family Therapist and special needs parent on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging kids. Over at parentswithconfidence.com, she wants to make life easier for you by decoding your child’s maddening behaviors, as well as their developmental and emotional needs. When she’s not supporting parents, or seeing kids in her private practice, she is at home being challenged (a lot) by her own three kids (and sometimes husband). Follow her on facebook.